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| UPHOLDING THE MORAL VALUE OF FAMILY |
OUR MISSION
Our mission is to persuasively present biblical principles in the centers of influence on issues affecting the family through research, communication, and networking.
Our mission is to persuasively present biblical principles in the centers of influence on issues affecting the family through research, communication, and networking.
OUR VISION
Our vision is to transform the culture in Uganda and beyond by reclaiming the values and virtues of marriage, the traditional family model, and sexual purity.
Our vision is to transform the culture in Uganda and beyond by reclaiming the values and virtues of marriage, the traditional family model, and sexual purity.
Emotional Dangers of Teen Sex
In discussions of teen sex, much is said about the dangers of pregnancy and disease but far less about the emotional hazards. That’s a problem, because the destructive psychological consequences of temporary sexual relationships are very real. Being aware of them can help a young person make the decision to refrain from premature sexual involvement— both to avoid getting hurt and to avoid hurting someone else….
For human beings, sex is about much more than the body. It’s the emotional or psychological dimension of sex that is distinctively human. Our entire person—mind, body, and feelings—is involved. That’s why sexual intimacy has potentially powerful emotional consequences.
1. Worry about pregnancy and disease. For many young people who have become sexually active, the fear of pregnancy or getting a sexually transmitted disease causes major emotional stress.
2. Regret. A 2004 survey by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy asked teens, “If you have had sexual intercourse, do you wish you had waited?” Two-thirds of all teens said yes. Girls are more vulnerable to feelings of regret. A girl who sees sex as a way to “show you care” may feel cheated and used when the boy doesn’t show a greater romantic interest after the sexual experience. Said one 15-year-old girl: “I didn’t expect the guy to marry me, but I never expected him to avoid me in school.”
3. Guilt. Guilt is a special form of regret—a strong sense of having done something morally wrong. Guilt is healthy if you take it as a sign that your conscience is alive and working— and as a reason to avoid in the future the behavior that caused you to have a guilty conscience.
4. Loss of self-esteem and self-respect. Sometimes the loss of self-esteem after uncommitted sex leads a person into further casual sex, leading to further loss of self-esteem in an oppressive cycle from which it may be hard to break free.
5. The corruption of character. When we treat others as sexual objects to be used for our selfish pleasure, we not only lose self-respect, we change our character—the kind
of person we are becoming.
of person we are becoming.
6. Fear of commitment. Young people who feel betrayed after the breakup of a sexual relationship may experience difficulty trusting in future relationships. They don’t want to be burned again.
7. Depression and suicide. Research finds that teens who abstain from risky behavior—such as sex, drugs, and drinking—are the least likely to experience depression. Both males and females who engage in high levels of risky behavior are the most likely to get depressed. A 1991 study in Pediatrics found that the attempted suicide rate for sexually experienced girls between the ages of 12 and 16 was six times higher than it was for girls that age who were virgins.
8. Damaged or ruined relationships. Sex can turn a good relationship bad. Other dimensions of the relationship soon stop developing. Negative emotions enter the picture.
Eventually, they poison the relationship.
9. Stunted Personal Development. Premature sexual involvement not only can stunt the development of a relationship, it can also stunt one’s development as a person. The risk appears to be greater for girls who get sexually involved and thereby close the door on other interests and relationships.
10. Negative effects on marriage. Most teens say they dream of being happily married someday. They should ask themselves, “What sexual decisions at this point in my life will help me realize my dream of a happy marriage? What problems might I cause for myself or future spouse by being sexually intimate before marriage?” Here are four: 1) comparisons to previous partners; 2) infidelity; 3) infertility; and 4) a greater chance of divorce.
Sex can be the source of great pleasure and joy. But it can also be the source of deep wounds and suffering. What makes the difference is the relationship within which it occurs.
Sexual intimacy is most joyful, meaningful, and fulfilling—most emotionally safe as well as physically safe—when it occurs within a loving, total, and binding commitment: marriage. Sexual union is then part of something bigger—the faithful union of two people’s lives.
Teens I believe we can wait. Patience pains but it pays. Give your life a meaning by using your body for glorious purposes. Remember your life on earth is God’s gift to you but what you do with your life is your gift to God. What kind of Gift would you love to give God?
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